The Prophet (sallallähu alaihi wasallam) said, “Do not wear silk or Dibaja, and do not drink in silver or golden vessels, and do not eat in plates of such metals, for such things are for the unbelievers in this worldly life and for us in the Hereafter.” [Bukhari Book:65 No:337]

Narrated By Anas bin Malik : The Prophet(PBUH) said, “Facilitate things to people (concerning religious matters), and do not make it hard for them and give them good tidings and do not make them run away (from Islam).”  Sahih Bukhari Hadith No: 69

Humans have always been social creatures and in need of friends and companions. Much of our lives is spent in interaction with others. For us Muslims who are living in a society where we are clearly a minority, the issue of choosing the right companions is essential for preserving our Deen. Befriending righteous and virtuous Muslims is an essential means for staying on the Straight Path. Strong individuals, on the other hand, are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for.

We all know that we were created for a specific purpose and that Allah the Most High has given us life in order to test us. None of us will deny that we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah (swt) one Day. Once we know our purpose and our goal, we should seek ways to achieve them so as to benefit our own selves. All of us believe that Allah has sent us a Messenger (saws) and revealed to us the Qur’an, the Best Speech.

In an authentic Hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (saws) said:

“A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” (1).

The person most noble in character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear message and advice in regard to friendship. We should choose the friend that is satisfied with our Deen and avoid the friend that is displeased with it. Whoever we see and are pleased with his Deen, we should befriend him and whoever we are displeased with his Deen and his manners, we ought to avoid him. There is no good in the companion who does not wish for us (from good) what he wishes for himself. There is also no good in the companion who wishes for us what he wishes for himself, if what he likes for his own soul is leading him towards destruction and Hellfire.

The bases for the actions of those who follow the evil ways are corrupt; their actions are built upon misguidance and deviation. Their deeds are worthless to them as Allah (swt) said:

“And We will proceed to what they have done of deeds, so We shall render them to scattered floating dust.” Qur’an 25:23

Their actions, even if we regard them as righteous and noble are of no value to them, so how can they be of benefit to us? Friends are those who feel for their companions, in both happy and sad moments. If we share our feelings with the wrong-doers whose actions are worthless and based on corruption, then we are following the same ways and standards as they are. Affection which results from that friendship leads to love and closeness to other than the righteous believers, and this may even lead to avoiding those who are on the Straight Way. Mixing with followers of any way other than that of the Guidance also results in a change in one’s behavior, morals and conduct.

If we agree, follow and are pleased with such friends, then we inherit their habits, behaviors and even religion. Such a Muslim would find himself in a situation wherein he is willing to hide his Islam in front of those who despise it (those that he considers as friends) and to separate from the believers. When this situation occurs, a point is reached when there is a very slight difference between the Muslim and his wrong-doing companion. Such a companionship is the root of sickness of one’s heart and loss of one’s Deen.

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend the righteous and treat the rest in a gracious and just manner. Staying at sufficient distance is necessary, yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is required.

In another Hadith, Prophet Muhammad (saws) said:

“The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows.. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him.” (2)

In his commentary of this Hadith, Imam an-Nawawy said that the Prophet (saws) compared a good companion to a seller of musk and spoke of the virtue of having companions who are good, who have noble manners, piety, knowledge and good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. And he (saws) forbade us to sit with those who do evil, commit a lot of sins and other bad deeds, as well as with innovators, backbiters, and so forth. Another scholar said: “keeping good company with the pious results in attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions, whereas keeping company with the wicked prevents all of that.” Many times a Muslim is encouraged by his friends to do evil and to forget his duties. The result is that Muslims themselves are often ashamed to leave them to perform prayer, their friends thus causing them to clearly deviate from the Right Path.

Allah the Exalted says in the Qur’an:

“And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur’an) after it had come to me. And Satan is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need.” Qur’an 25:27-29

So take heed before the inevitable Day comes when we are called to account for our actions.

Allah, the All-Wise also says:

“Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have Taqwah).” Qur’an 43:67

Hafidh Ibn Katheer, commenting on this verse, relates a story on the authority of Ali Ibn Abi Talib (ra) and says that any friendship for other than Allah is turned into enmity, except what was in it for Allah the Mighty and Majestic: “Two who are friends for Allah’s sake; one of them dies and is given good news that he will be granted al-Jannah, so he remembered his friend and he supplicated for him, saying: ‘O Allah, my friend used to command me to obey You and to obey Your Prophet (saws) and used to command me to do good and to forbid me from doing evil. And he told me that I will meet You. O Allah, do not let him go astray after me, until you show him what you have just shown me, until You are satisfied with him, just like You are satisfied with me.’ So he is told: ‘Had you known what is (written) for you friend, would you have laughed a lot and cried a little.’ Then his friend dies and their souls are gathered, and both are asked to express their opinions about each other. So each one of them says to his friend: ‘You were the best brother, the best companion and the best friend.’ And when one of the two disbelieving friends dies, and he is given tidings of Hellfire, he remembered his friend and he said: ‘O Allah, my friend used to order me to disobey You and disobey Your Prophet, and commanded me to do evil, and forbade me from doing good, and told me that I would not meet You. O Allah, do not guide him after me, until you show him what you have just shown me and until you are dissatisfied with him just like You are dissatisfied with me.’ Then the other disbelieving friend dies, and their souls are gathered, and both are asked to give their opinions about each other. So each one says to his friend: ‘You were the worst brother, the worst companion and the worst friend.”

That is the end of those who do not have Taqwah and those who befriend for a sake other than that of Allah the Exalted. Allah has surely spoken the truth and we all should grasp what He has informed us of. It is through the good company that Allah, the Most High, saves those who are astray and guides the wicked. The benefit of mixing with the righteous is immense, and it will, insha’Allah, be even more obvious to us in the Hereafter. One of the early Muslims said that it is from Allah’s blessings upon a youth when he turns to worship that he is given brother who is a follower of the Sunnah encouraging him upon it.

Sealing a friendship for Allah’s sake will result in one’s receiving protection of Allah (swt). And as Ibn Abbas said:

“No one may taste true faith except by this (i.e. building relationships for Allah’s sake), even if his prayers and fasts are many. People have come to build their relationship around the concerns of the world, but it will not benefit them in any way.” (3)

A scholar has said:

“To seal a friendship for Allah’s sake indicates the obligation of establishing relationships of love and trust for His sake; this is a friendship for the sake of Allah. It also indicates that simple affection is not enough here; indeed what is meant is a love based upon alliance. This entails assistance, honor, and respect. It means being with those whom you love both in word and deed.” Loyalty for the sake of Allah really means to love Allah and to come to the assistance of His Deen; to love those who are obedient to Him and to come to their help. Moreover, the Shahadah “La Ilaha Illa Allah” requires us to ally ourselves for the sake of Allah, and it requires us to ally ourselves to the Muslims wherever we find them.

In two other authentic narration’s of the Prophet (saws) we were commanded to keep company with a believer only (3), and told that a person will be with those he loves (4). So if we love and associate ourselves with those who are misguided, we should fear for our fate. The wise person is the one who prepares himself for the Hereafter, not the one who neglects his faith and falls into the trap of Satan who tells him that he will be forgiven and that he can do whatever he wishes. If we truly believe that the best speech is the Speech of Allah and that he best guidance is the guidance of Prophet Muhammad (saws), we should act in accordance with them, lest we build a proof against ourselves.

Ali (raa) said:

“Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people to protect yourself from their evils.” (4)

If we are truly concerned about our fate, we must come to this realisation: those who take us away from remembering Allah, from obeying Him and His Prophet (saws), those who fail to remind us of our daily prayers and those who do not give us sincere advice in regard to our Deen; such are really our foes and not our friends. On the other side, “a believer is the mirror of his brother” (5), and if he sees any faults in the other believer, he draws his attention to it, helps him to give it up and helps him wipe away any evil that he may have.

Ibn Hazm said:

“Anyone who criticises you cares about your friendship. Anyone who makes light of your faults cares nothing about you.” (5)

How can we expect sincere advice and exhortation in regard to our religion from those who are displeased with our Deen or are simply indifferent? Are they going to help us achieve the purpose of our life, or will they take us away from it? Will they desire for us Allah’s pleasure or is that Completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all? Are they leading us to al-Jannah or to the Hellfire? These are the questions we have to ask ourselves, lest we wake up after we die.

“O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error. The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do.” Qur’an 5:105

We ask Allah to make us of the righteous ones and give us companions that will take us away from His Wrath and lead us to His Pleasure and Paradise.

References:

1 Abu Dawood and at-Tirmithi
2 Al-Bukhari and Muslim
3 Abu Dawood and at-Tirmithi
4 Al-Bukhari and Muslim
5 Abu Dawood, Hasan Hadith

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The Prophet (sallallähu alaihi wasallam) said, “Whoever purposely throws himself from a mountain and kills himself, will be in the (Hell) Fire falling down into it and abiding therein perpetually forever; and whoever drinks poison and kills himself with it, he will be carrying his poison in his hand and drinking it in the (Hell) Fire wherein he will abide eternally forever; and whoever kills himself with an iron weapon, will be carrying that weapon in his hand and stabbing his abdomen with it in the (Hell) Fire wherein he will abide eternally forever.”

[Bukhari Book:71 No:670]

Say, “What is your opinion – if Allah were to take away your hearing and your sight and seal your hearts, then is there a God besides Allah who could restore it for you?” Observe how We explain the verses to them, yet they turn away![Ana`am 6:46]

Aisha asked Allah’s Apostle (sallallähu alaihi wasallam) about the plague.
He told me that it was a Punishment sent by Allah on whom he wished, and Allah made it a source of mercy for the believers, for if one in the time of an epidemic plague stays in his country patiently hoping for Allah’s Reward and believing that nothing will befall him except what Allah has written for him, he will get the reward of a martyr.”[Bukhari Book:56 No:680]

“We have not sent down to you the Qur’an that you be distressed. But only as a reminder for those who fear Allah. A revelation from He who created the earth and highest heavens” [Surah Taha 20:2-5]

High school students — not a religious leader from outside — now lead the weekly Muslim prayers at Toronto’s Valley Park Middle School, a change the school hopes will ease objections to the 30-minute service.

Three male students from nearby Marc Garneau Collegiate began leading Friday afternoon prayers earlier this month rather than an imam from the nearby mosque, because some critics had complained about an outside religious leader conducting worship at school during the school day.

In a bid to address those concerns, school officials brainstormed this summer with leaders of the large Muslim community in Thorncliffe Park, near Don Mills Rd. and Overlea Blvd., and agreed that student-run prayers seemed a solution, said Valley Park principal Nick Stefanoff. Many Toronto high schools have long allowed students to run Friday prayers on-site, but Valley Park had allowed an imam, partly because its oldest students are only in Grade 8.

But with Marc Garneau Collegiate across the street, Valley Park turned to their students for help.

“We wanted to address concerns without changing the religious accommodation we provide,” said Stefanoff, whose school started allowing the prayer service three years ago as a way to stop losing as many as 400 students every Friday to worship at a local mosque. Many believe the Qur’an requires followers to pray together at a certain time on Friday afternoon, so Valley Park lets students use the cafeteria after lunch.

“I think it’s a good idea because it cuts down on travel time and it’s safer for younger students to stay at the school,” said Hamzah Khoda, 16, a Grade 11 student who helps the student leaders who conduct the service.

So far the students have led only one service since they resumed for the winter, which drew some 300 Valley Park students. Stefanoff noted they “were actually pretty quiet and orderly.”

Khoda said the prayers begin with a sermon in Arabic from a book provided by the local mosque. He said the student leader wears a robe and female students sit behind their male classmates — a point that drew fire this summer for violating gender equity.

Jim Spyropoulos, superintendent of inclusive schools for the Toronto District School Board, said it is not up to schools to judge the beliefs of a religion, but they are compelled by law to accommodate students’ religious needs, whether it is a Jewish student’s need to stay home to observe high holidays, a Jehovah’s Witness’s objection to standing for the national anthem, or a Muslim student’s need to pray during a school day, unlike other religions whose day of worship falls on weekends.

“These are highly personal matters that are very important to many students, and we’re compelled to live up to our legal duty to accommodate them,” said Spryropoulos. He noted that Christian holidays such as Christmas and Good Friday are enshrined in law as statutory holidays.

Several religious groups have supported accommodating Friday prayers in school, including the Ontario Multifaith Council and the Hindu Federation. Other groups, such as the Canadian Muslim Congress and a group called Canadian Hindu Advocacy have opposed it.

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The Prophet (sallallähu alaihi wasallam) said, “The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a Mujahid (warrior) who fights for Allah’s Cause, or like him who performs prayers all the night and fasts all the day.” [Bukhari Book:64 No:265]

Anas ibn Malik (رضى الله عنه) said that when he was sitting with the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he said: “Coming upon you now is a man from the people of Paradise.” So a man came from the Ansar whose beard looked disarrayed by the water from Wudu (ablution)…

“Indeed, Allah is truly favorable to the people, but most of them are not thankful.”[10:60]

It was asked ‘O Allah’s Apostle! We know how to greet you; but how to send ‘Salat’ upon you?

He said, ‘Say: Allahumma Salli ala Muhammadin wa ‘ala Ali Muhammadin, kama sal-laita ‘ala all Ibrahima innaka Hamidun Majid. Allahumma barik ‘ala Muhammadin wa ‘ala all Muhammadin, kama barakta ‘ala all Ibrahima, innaka Hamidun Majid.”

[Bukhari Book:75 No:368]

By Allah, it is not poverty about which I fear for you, but I fear in your case that (the worldly) riches may be given to you as were given to those who had gone before you, and that you begin to vie with one another for them as they vied for them, and that they may destroy you as they destroyed them. [Al-Bukhari]

O son of Adam! It is better for you if you spend your surplus (wealth), but if you withhold it, it is evil for you. There is (however) no reproach for you (if you withhold the essentials) for a living. And begin (charity) with your dependents; and the upper hand is better than the lower hand. [Muslim]

If anyone gives as sadaqa (charity) the equivalent of a date from that (earning) earned honestly, for Allah accepts that which is lawful, the Lord would accept it with His Right Hand, and even if it is a date, it would foster in the Hand of the lord, as one of you fosters his colt, till it becomes bigger than a mountain.
[Al-Bukhari]

Nothing is more delighting to me than this that Uhud should be of gold for me, and no dinar is left with me out of it before three nights pass except a dinar which I would set aside for the repayment of debt upon me. [Al-Bukhari]

O Allah, I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being overcome by dept and from being overpowered by men (i.e. other people).” (Al-Bukhari, Hadith:6369)

Among the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is he who, if entrusted with a Cantar (a great amount of wealth, etc.), will readily pay it back; and among them there is he who, if entrusted with a single silver coin, will not repay it unless you constantly stand demanding, because they say: “There is no blame on us to betray and take the properties of the illiterates (Arabs).” But they tell a lie against Allâh while they know it.[Ali-Imran 3:75]

To be held on
Saturday, December 3rd (12:30 pm- 7pm)
and
Sunday, December 4th (10 am – 5 pm), 2011
at the
Islamic Association of Northwest Calgary

FOR MORE INFORMATION PLEASE CLICK

DAY 1DAY 1 –SATURDAY DECEMBER 3rd

12:30pmREGISTRATION
12:50-1:1:15ADHAN & DUHR SALAH
1:25-1:30RECITATION OF QURAN
1:30-1:45SUPLICATIONS OF THE MORNINING & AFTERNOONJ
1:45-2:201. BETTER OR BITTER HALF? AN ISLAMIC EXPLANATION

This topic will examine the reasons why all of the Prophets of Allah strongly encouraged their followers to establish the blessed social institution of marriage. Traditions of the Messenger (saw) will be examined outlining the purposes and reasons as to why one, in this day and age is somewhat obligated to get married. What is an appropriate age of marriage? Other objectives of marriage will also be discussed.
2:20-2:552 .PURSUE THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP, NOT PARTNER!

This important assembly will highlight the judicial parameters of whom one is allowed to marry? After examining the fiqh of whom one can marry, including the topic of the people of the book, the instructor will bring the students attention towards the process of selection for a potential spouse. What should one look for? Is beauty a point to consider? What is the ruling of looking at one’s potential spouse? Did the Prophet advise us as to how glancing should be carried out? The fiqh of engagements will also be brought to the discussion table. Are engagements Sunnah? What is the ruling with respect to engagement gifts?
2:55-3:15ADHAN & ASR
3:15-4:003. FROM PROPOSING-GLANCING-ENGAGEMENT-MARRAIGE CONTRACT
WHAT CONDITIONS WOULD INVALIDATE A MARRIAGE CONTRACT?
This session will get into the judicial aspects of the fiqh related issues pertaining to marriage. Have you ever studied or even seen a marriage contract? What conditions, if any can a sister place on the marriage? Are prenuptial agreements Sharia compliant? What is a walima, and is there anything I should know about them? How many witnesses are needed for my marriage? What if I’m a convert… Who will be my Wali? If my husband apostasies from Islam, is my marriage still valid and for how long? What is the Islamic ruling on forced marriages? How does one announce the marriage? Is a woman’s consent required prior to marriage?
4:00-4:454. PROPHETIC ADVICE FOR NEWLYWEDS
What exactly is the point of the marriage sermon? Why did the Messenger (saw) choose these particular verses over others? What are the 4 foundational agreements the spouses should learn from the Sermon? The 5 recommendations of the Prophet (saw) with respect to the first moments of matrimonial life will be studied. The session will conclude by explaining the process of how to set-up healthy family dynamics and a successful atmosphere from day one.

4:45-5:05ADHAN & MAGHRIB
5:05-5:30 LATE LUNCH
5:30-6:30

CORRESPONDING RIGHTS & DUTIES BETWEEN SPOUSES/DOWRY-CAN I ASK FOR A $20,000 DOWRY?
What is the mahr or dowry all about? Is the mahr a form of insurance in the event the relationship gets compromised? Is the dowry culturally based or religious? Is there a minimum or maximum amount a woman can request? Did the Prophet (saw) give dowry to his wives? What is the story behind Fatima (ra) dowry? How much is Mahr Fatima? Is the dowry and its function mentioned in the Quran? Seriously, Can I ask for $20,000, cold hard cash? Do I have to cook or do laundry? As a wife, do I have to financially contribute towards the day to day expenditures of running a home? Who is the primary caregiver for the children? What is the concept of Qawamah?

6:30-7:10QUESTION & ANSWER
7:15ADHAN
7:30ISHA

DAY 2DAY 2-SUNDAY DECEMBER 4th

9:30-10:00BREAKFAST
10:05-10:15SUPPLICATIONS OF THE MORNING
10:15-11:156. THE 7C’s & 8S’s TO A SUCCESFULL MARRIAGE
A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS AN EDIFICE THAT MUST BE REBUILT EVERYDAY
This session will expound upon the key ingredients towards a healthy, successful, thriving relationship. The Islamic concepts of commitment, courtesy, communication, care, contentment, contribution and compromise will be discussed from an Islamic 21st century perspective. You’ll have to attend the course to figure out what the Seven magical S’s are!
11:15-12:007. THE FASHION OF HAVING SMALL FAMILIES…ISLAMIC?
DID YOU KNOW THAT THE AVERAGE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN PER FAMILY IN CANADA IS 1.1
Source: Statistics Canada/
WHEN DOES THE SOUL ENTER THE FETUS?
DO NOT KILL YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF FEAR OF POVERTY (QURAN)
The instructor during this particular topic will focus primarily on five salient points. 1. A purpose of marriage?
2. Children, a source of mercy for the parents 3. Islamic upbringing: An important responsibility 4.The fashion of having small families 5. The sacredness of life from the moment of formation.
12:00-12:458. THE FIQH & ETTIQUETTE OF MARITAL RELATIONS
LEGAL-MORAL-SPIRITUAL
Ustadah Noureen Tilly will be examining this subject with the sisters in the Youth Centre, while the same session will be delivered by one of the Shaykhs on the brothers’ side. The student will quickly acknowledge and grasp not only the beautiful teachings of Islam on this subject, but equally important, how the Prophet (saw) taught and exemplified these etiquettes in the most attractive and complete form.
12:45-1:00ADHAN
1:00DUHR
1:15-2:00LUNCH
2:00-3:009. POLYGAMY FROM PRE ISLAMIC ARABIA –MODERN DAY ISLAM
AN ACADEMIC HISTORICAL STUDY
This topic will be taught from a few different angles. Among them is polygamy in the Judeo-Christian traditions. The practice of polygamy in pre-Islamic Arabia. Historical and background context of the Quranic verses mentioning Polygamy. Prophetic teachings about Polygamy and it’s judicial classification according to Islamic scholars.
3:00-3:15ASR
3:15-4:30Q&APANEL
4:30-4:45CONCLUSION & DUAA

4:45-5:00ADHAN & MAGHRIB

worship Allah as though you see Him, and though you do not see Him, you know that He sees you.” [Sahîh al Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]