DEFINING MARRIAGE – WEEKEND ILM INTENSIVE VII
November 23, 2011
To be held on
Saturday, December 3rd (12:30 pm- 7pm)
and
Sunday, December 4th (10 am – 5 pm), 2011
at the
Islamic Association of Northwest Calgary
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DAY 1DAY 1 –SATURDAY DECEMBER 3rd
12:30pmREGISTRATION
12:50-1:1:15ADHAN & DUHR SALAH
1:25-1:30RECITATION OF QURAN
1:30-1:45SUPLICATIONS OF THE MORNINING & AFTERNOONJ
1:45-2:201. BETTER OR BITTER HALF? AN ISLAMIC EXPLANATION
This topic will examine the reasons why all of the Prophets of Allah strongly encouraged their followers to establish the blessed social institution of marriage. Traditions of the Messenger (saw) will be examined outlining the purposes and reasons as to why one, in this day and age is somewhat obligated to get married. What is an appropriate age of marriage? Other objectives of marriage will also be discussed.
2:20-2:552 .PURSUE THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP, NOT PARTNER!
This important assembly will highlight the judicial parameters of whom one is allowed to marry? After examining the fiqh of whom one can marry, including the topic of the people of the book, the instructor will bring the students attention towards the process of selection for a potential spouse. What should one look for? Is beauty a point to consider? What is the ruling of looking at one’s potential spouse? Did the Prophet advise us as to how glancing should be carried out? The fiqh of engagements will also be brought to the discussion table. Are engagements Sunnah? What is the ruling with respect to engagement gifts?
2:55-3:15ADHAN & ASR
3:15-4:003. FROM PROPOSING-GLANCING-ENGAGEMENT-MARRAIGE CONTRACT
WHAT CONDITIONS WOULD INVALIDATE A MARRIAGE CONTRACT?
This session will get into the judicial aspects of the fiqh related issues pertaining to marriage. Have you ever studied or even seen a marriage contract? What conditions, if any can a sister place on the marriage? Are prenuptial agreements Sharia compliant? What is a walima, and is there anything I should know about them? How many witnesses are needed for my marriage? What if I’m a convert… Who will be my Wali? If my husband apostasies from Islam, is my marriage still valid and for how long? What is the Islamic ruling on forced marriages? How does one announce the marriage? Is a woman’s consent required prior to marriage?
4:00-4:454. PROPHETIC ADVICE FOR NEWLYWEDS
What exactly is the point of the marriage sermon? Why did the Messenger (saw) choose these particular verses over others? What are the 4 foundational agreements the spouses should learn from the Sermon? The 5 recommendations of the Prophet (saw) with respect to the first moments of matrimonial life will be studied. The session will conclude by explaining the process of how to set-up healthy family dynamics and a successful atmosphere from day one.
4:45-5:05ADHAN & MAGHRIB
5:05-5:30 LATE LUNCH
5:30-6:30
CORRESPONDING RIGHTS & DUTIES BETWEEN SPOUSES/DOWRY-CAN I ASK FOR A $20,000 DOWRY?
What is the mahr or dowry all about? Is the mahr a form of insurance in the event the relationship gets compromised? Is the dowry culturally based or religious? Is there a minimum or maximum amount a woman can request? Did the Prophet (saw) give dowry to his wives? What is the story behind Fatima (ra) dowry? How much is Mahr Fatima? Is the dowry and its function mentioned in the Quran? Seriously, Can I ask for $20,000, cold hard cash? Do I have to cook or do laundry? As a wife, do I have to financially contribute towards the day to day expenditures of running a home? Who is the primary caregiver for the children? What is the concept of Qawamah?
6:30-7:10QUESTION & ANSWER
7:15ADHAN
7:30ISHA
DAY 2DAY 2-SUNDAY DECEMBER 4th
9:30-10:00BREAKFAST
10:05-10:15SUPPLICATIONS OF THE MORNING
10:15-11:156. THE 7C’s & 8S’s TO A SUCCESFULL MARRIAGE
A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS AN EDIFICE THAT MUST BE REBUILT EVERYDAY
This session will expound upon the key ingredients towards a healthy, successful, thriving relationship. The Islamic concepts of commitment, courtesy, communication, care, contentment, contribution and compromise will be discussed from an Islamic 21st century perspective. You’ll have to attend the course to figure out what the Seven magical S’s are!
11:15-12:007. THE FASHION OF HAVING SMALL FAMILIES…ISLAMIC?
DID YOU KNOW THAT THE AVERAGE AMOUNT OF CHILDREN PER FAMILY IN CANADA IS 1.1
Source: Statistics Canada/
WHEN DOES THE SOUL ENTER THE FETUS?
DO NOT KILL YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF FEAR OF POVERTY (QURAN)
The instructor during this particular topic will focus primarily on five salient points. 1. A purpose of marriage?
2. Children, a source of mercy for the parents 3. Islamic upbringing: An important responsibility 4.The fashion of having small families 5. The sacredness of life from the moment of formation.
12:00-12:458. THE FIQH & ETTIQUETTE OF MARITAL RELATIONS
LEGAL-MORAL-SPIRITUAL
Ustadah Noureen Tilly will be examining this subject with the sisters in the Youth Centre, while the same session will be delivered by one of the Shaykhs on the brothers’ side. The student will quickly acknowledge and grasp not only the beautiful teachings of Islam on this subject, but equally important, how the Prophet (saw) taught and exemplified these etiquettes in the most attractive and complete form.
12:45-1:00ADHAN
1:00DUHR
1:15-2:00LUNCH
2:00-3:009. POLYGAMY FROM PRE ISLAMIC ARABIA –MODERN DAY ISLAM
AN ACADEMIC HISTORICAL STUDY
This topic will be taught from a few different angles. Among them is polygamy in the Judeo-Christian traditions. The practice of polygamy in pre-Islamic Arabia. Historical and background context of the Quranic verses mentioning Polygamy. Prophetic teachings about Polygamy and it’s judicial classification according to Islamic scholars.
3:00-3:15ASR
3:15-4:30Q&APANEL
4:30-4:45CONCLUSION & DUAA
4:45-5:00ADHAN & MAGHRIB
